How To Connect With Your Heart And Heal Your Ache
I’ve done lots of healing, counseling and self-development over the years. I thought I was good. Not needing anything else. “I must be okay by now”.
It’s actually kind of embarrassing. I mean, I have literally dug up so many issues that I needed to deal with. Habits to change. Negative thinking to overcome. And the list goes on.
Seriously? Am I that messed up? The truth is, we all have issues. I have a sneaking suspicion that you do too. Am I right? Be honest now. LOL
Sometimes the best way to overcome those issues is to speak to someone who is trained to help.
Most recently I was speaking to a therapist. Yes, I said therapist! I was telling her about a struggle I was having. What she said gave me so much clarity in that moment. It was simple. But it was a deep revelation for me.
She took out this elephant stuffed animal and said, “this is your heart. When things happen in your life, you have learned to put the elephant (heart) aside” (she put it on the chair next to her). “Or you just completely ignore it” (then she proceeded to put the elephant under her leg). “The pain in your heart becomes ‘the elephant in the room’. Really, its the elephant inside that is so important!”
“The story in my head, that I’d learned tells me to, ‘just get things done’, ‘do it right’, ‘no mistakes’ and ‘do it now, or else’! “
What room is there in that story for connecting with my heart to see how it feels and what it needs in any given situation?
If “out of the heart flow the issues of life”. Than if all the issues are stuffed down in the heart with no way out, you can be pretty darn sure, there will be an explosion at some point.
If you are not connected and caring for your heart it will be sick.
When I think of being sick I think of stuff coming up and out, sometimes down and out, pardon the imagery. I tried to keep it simple. Often the “stuff” that came out of my sick heart was yucky to others.
Pushing people away
I discovered that I had become so outwardly focused, task oriented and performance minded that I had become totally disconnected with my heart and the heart of the people I love.
That a lonely place. Have you been there? Are you there now?
God wants to connect with your heart to bring healing and wholeness.
God said He looks at the heart while man looks at the outward appearance. God is interested in your heart and mine because He wants a relationship with you and me. He is more interested in your heart being whole than He is in anything else. I am convinced.
1 Thessalonians 5:23 says that God wants to sanctify us or make us whole in every part of our being; body, soul and spirit.
When our hearts are whole and connected to the constant flow of God’s love we can give this love to others. Love is what transforms our lives.
I have had many times over the years where God showed me His incredible love and desire to connect with me on a deeper level. Deeper than I can have ever imagined. If you experience any of the “protection” techniques above, have a hard time connecting with your heart or just want to allow God to speak to you in a fresh way try some of these things.
- Take time regularly, each week to sit quietly in a place that makes you feel rest. Nature does it for me. Just sit for a few minutes and ask God to show you His love for you. In those quiet spaces God can and will speak to your heart. Maybe its a sense of peace, maybe an encouragement comes to mind, maybe a scripture. Don’t try to make it into anything just BE. If you feel nothing other than a moment of rest thats ok.
- When you notice a “trigger”, something that causes strong emotions like anger, sadness, or causes you to disconnect, ask God about it. What am I feeling? When did I first feel that way? Take time to listen and see if a memory comes to mind. If it does then take time to ask God to help you to connect to your heart in that situation. What does God want to say to you about that situation? Who is He for you in that situation?
- Talk to a trained professional or Ministry Leader. Is there a pastor, counselor who is trained and can help you process. Here are a few Ministries that do a great job at this. LIfeCare Centres, Family Foundations Canada, Sozo, Living Waters.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. What’s your story? Happy heart connecting!